Before you ask, “What the hell is FCX?” let me first tell you this tale. Some two years ago, I came across an album of a friend, who for the sake anonymity I’ll refer to as R. Now R and I come from the same home town and both speak Cantonese. In Cantonese, FCX is Foo Chai Xiong. In Mandarin, Fu Chi Xiang.
Whether in Cantonese or Mandarin, both refer to husbands and wives looking alike to the point they can be mistaken for siblings. For Chinese to say you look like your spouse – and not just that you have two eyes, a nose and a mouth – is the highest compliment they can pay you. Being extremely fatalistic, this is us saying, based on centuries of inherited wisdom, that your relationship has been blessed, nay ordained, by the Gods.
Perhaps, I should shoot off an email to Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes, who are divorcing, to find future mates that look like themselves. FCX. In recent years, the British painter Suzi Malin, has made that connection between similarity of spouses faces and physical attraction. Friends who’ve known me since I was 18, are well aware of my 500 photo collection stemming from my fixation with lookalike spouses. I look nothing like mine, but that is a different story.
Back to R. A month ago, he suddenly asked me to divine for his love life. He was skeptical about my ability to read people and situations from an astrology chart until I demonstrated my art to him via instant messaging. FYI, I only do this as a hobby and only for friends who really need it, when I have the time. R was patient enough to wait weeks between the first and second reading as I launched this website then tinkered with it.
R asked if I remembered what I said about FCX on one of his albums. I said no since I’m such a major busy body that I even have difficulty remembering my own birthday. Yes, I once got the day wrong. He dug out my comments from 2 years ago about this girl he had gone hiking with. At the time, he insisted they were just friends. I told him that she was a good match because they had FCX. He argued with me about the validity of my beliefs and I told him that for Chinese, FCX is the gold standard in compatibility. I’ve seen it work many times even in partners of different races, even in homosexual couples.
From that time to this, he had been dating someone else. Why R and I were having this conversation was because – drumroll please – he and the girl he’d gone hiking with were actually attracted to each other. TA DA !!! There are problems which I’m not at liberty to discuss but suffice to say, I was right all along about FCX.