Hello and welcome!!!

Welcome and thank you for checking out www.byestella.com, a personal blog about migrant life in Australia, written, edited and maintained exclusively by yours truly!

Topics I write extensively on include:

* parenting an Asian child in the West and the joys and challenges that entails

* the peculiarities of the Chinese-migrant brain

* whether to migrate or not

* moving from 3rd world to 1st and the difference between both landscapes

* my experience of renovating a 90 year old   Queenslander-type house

* my various travels (check out the many photos I took of the Southern Alps in New Zealand, my trip across Australia’s famed Nullabor by car, Margaret River in Western Australia) when I lived for 2 years in Perth

* Movies I enjoy that showcase Chinese culture, or the literary or artistic talents of people I know. 

My husband, who chooses not to be identified, I have nicknamed His Royal Highness, because he is a Leo, and in my mind, very regal. I am his loyal subject, and defender against bullies and time-wasters, which unfortunately, you can’t avoid anywhere.

I have 2 children, Amanda and Ethan, my pigeon pair born 9 years apart. Amanda features prominently in my posts about parenting and it is to her that I dedicate them.

Do enjoy!

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43 thoughts on “Hello and welcome!!!

  1. Thank you for your interesting article on hot housing or a fluke of nature. I am a teacher here in Melbourne and first and foremost I would like to thank you on behalf of all the teachers for your contribution towards your own child’s learning. A lot of parents outsource this entire responsibly to the teachers and their children suffer as a result.
    Left right brain education is not really the point.
    There are plenty of studies that indicate that children who receive “high quality” early stimulation will always outshine their peers in terms of cognitive development.
    Abecerdarian project, headstart, highscope perrry school study.
    There are also many studies that indicate that children who have “phonic awareness” before they commence primary education will be considered advanced readers by the time they are in grade 6. Any primary educator will tell you this.
    The other very sad statistic in terms of reading is that if a child is labeled a poor reader in grade one – they only have a 1 in 10 chance of becoming an average reader by the time they complete grade 6 and this gap further widens by the time they complete year 12.
    There is an interesting article about this called something like “there are no such thing as late bloomers, only flowers that wilt.”
    One of the biggest and unfortunate indicators as to a child’s academic performance is directly related to affluence, parents IQ and amount of quality time spent with the child’s in terms of bonding before the child has even commenced formal education.
    It is very difficult to determine how effective a program like Shichida, Montessori or any other early program is because they tend to be attended by families they place a high priority on education and affluent enough to afford the program in the first place. In other words – these kids are going to be fine regardless.
    It’s if this same stimulation was offered to poor children of uneducated parents or not affectionate parents that you will see exactly how beneficial early education is.

    Your child is well adjusted – not because you showed flash cards or read to her, but because you loved her and spent time with her (and presumably doesn’t have any behavioral issues.) However, the reading and the flash cards and any other stimulating activity you have done with her – will last forever and for that you are an excellent mum!

    Having said that all – if I have a child she will without question attend the Shichida program in Melbourne.

    • You are most welcome and thank you for reading my posts. I have without a doubt great admiration for teachers everywhere since as you rightly pointed out, they have the enormous, in some instances full, responsibility of educating our young. It is lamentable that many Australian parents do not share our concern for their involvement in their children’s education, however, as many like to point out, scholastic success is only half the picture. Australia is a great place to raise children, in that they are not singled out for their intellectual capability or lack of. I grew up in a different place and time, when doing my best was not only about giving my all, but being at the top of the pile.

    • Thanks for reading my posts. If you want to join in discussions about any of the topics, you can like my facebook page “By Estella Dot Com.”

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    • Thank you very much for reading, Darcy. I strive to add new material as often as possible. Feel free to join in discussions on Facebook.

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  4. Hi, Estella=]
    it was nice to meet you in the sushi cafe lol~~~
    Trying to finish reading all your stories=]
    Hope to see you again^^

    • Hello Leeann,

      Thanks for checking out my blog. I try to write daily, on issues that are relevant to living in an increasingly borderless world. Feel free to share any of my posts with family or friends. I hope you find the uni course that will allow you to pursue your dream vocation. 🙂

      • As usual, I was griping about some stupid thing my ex- husband had done when she looked at me and said, Why do you hate
        him so much. Asking questions about the world and attempting new tasks will help develop self-confidence
        and allow for discoveries of purpose and identity.

    • Thanks for the link. The root of the problem lies with Korea being a homogenous society. With only one idea of beauty, everyone appears to be striving to look the same. It’s scary when you think of someone else walking around with your face, but that is what it amounts to.

  5. We all have different views. What’s pertinent here, and which you seem to continually disregard, is that THIS IS MY BLOG. I’m ENTITLED to air my views on my blog. Since you are a reader, I’ve granted you a similar courtesy. However, it behooves me to remind you NOT to insinuate things ABOUT MY MARRIAGE or any relationship I may have.

    I have no interest in what went on between you and Seah. Even Seah, as far as I can tell, has no interest in what when on between you and him. It’s ancient history. One would expect that in all this time, you’d have MOVED ON from Seah, MOVED ON from whatever fixation you have about my very remote association with Seah.

    If I’m just the sort of Chinese woman you despise, WHY must you continuously contact me? Don’t you know your continued contact with me, is contingent upon me (yes me!) allowing it? Or do you have SUCH A LOFTY VISION of yourself that you think others can’t decide whether or not they want to remain in contact?

    If I were to be as presumptive in my assertions of you as you are of me (and you are VERY PRESUMPTIVE), I’d say your LONELINESS is due to the fact you must always be RIGHT. You need everyone to know JUST HOW SMART you are, how ACCOMPLISHED you are, how INTELLIGENT, FAR SIGHTED…etc But have you considered that brow-beating others with your CV repeatedly ALIENATES you from them?

    P/s I refer you to words to wisdom from a Dying Man. In particular, the section on “True Joy”. I feel it remiss of me if I don’t tell you how far off you are from your own self-estimation.

  6. Here it is Wendy. Please read it slowly.

    http://www.byestella.com/wisdom-from-a-dying-man/

    Btw, even if my husband falls out of love with me tomorrow, I’ll still be WELL PROVIDED FOR, so you have no need to worry yourself about my welfare. And even if he does, at least I can say that someone HAS LOVED ME ENOUGH TO PUT A RING ON MY FINGER. Can you say the same???

    You are pissed off at me because I refuse to help you perpetrate some BIGOTED view of life. You want me to write about how great Chinese are, how great Chinese culture is, instead of an UNVARNISHED version of what it is like to be a Chinese.

  7. Hi Estella, i am just a stranger stumbled upon yr site when googling ‘dr richard teo’, and cant help looking at ‘comments’ section. This Wendy Loh is obviously a very bitter and jealous bitch i almost feel sorry for her… She is a writer/author? She better change profession with such english writing standard. Ignore her comments, as she just wants to get u fuming. Dont waste your time on people like that.
    I really enjoy your articles n will definitely be back again!:)

    • Thank you for your support. Yes, unfortunately, there are people like Wendy who, no matter how polite, cordial or restraint I am towards her, continue to harass and hammer me (she’s been doing this for YEARS) for no apparent reason. Well, she’s deluded in her self-aggrandization, so I pity her.

  8. In response to your reply, let’s clear a few things up:

    1) I DIDN’T WRITE to you about my private life. By ACCIDENT, you received an email intended for MY FRIENDS ONLY. Any sensible person would have disregarded it, or sent me a mail asking to be removed from my mailing list BUT YOU THOUGHT I was boasting to you. AGAIN, I am AT PAINS to point out that you received that mail BY ACCIDENT.

    2) I do not need and have never needed grouping. SJ and I have been friends for the past 16 years; we have a firm friendship that predates any vague association you may have had with her. She is a caring person, as is her mum, as am I, but our patience has ITS LIMITS.

    3) What rubbish. I fail to see how 1 message going astray can be construed as harassment.

    4) These examples of yours is what is meant by “self-aggrandization.”

    5) Another example of self-aggrandization. The proof is a ring. Where is your proof? All men want to MAKE BABIES but only someone who loves you wants to be a father to yours.

    6) Common ground would be to give me plenty of space like I have given you.

    7) Thank you. I put up the counter especially for you. I knew you’d like it.

    8) You should attempt writing in a language in which you are more comfortable. I wish I could read Mandarin so I can tell you if you are any good but alas, I can’t.

    Thank you. I wish you the same.

  9. You flatter me, Wendy.

    1) Now who’s boasting? Have you been a wife or a mother to anyone? What stages of life can you possibly have gone through BEFORE me?

    2) Good. Agreed. Now I would appreciate all FUTURE comments of yours to be factual and mostly, impersonal. If you must critique something, do so the subject matter and not me PERSONALLY.

    3) I didn’t ask if you wanted to talk because YOU ATTACKED ME simply for ACCIDENTALLY sending you an email intended for friends.

    4) YOU MENTIONED in your first post here that you are lonely. Find YOUR COMMENTS under “The difference between being friends and being friendly.”

    5) It’s my fault to think your English is better than what it really is. “To put a ring on someone’s finger” is an EUPHEMISM for MARRYING SOMEONE. When a man asks your father for your hand, gets down on bended knee to offer you a ring, he’s proposing marriage. I have many rings given to me that have no relation to marriage.

    6) I did NOT CAUSE you to lose anything. I repeat: I did NOT CAUSE you to lose ANYTHING. You PUBLISHED my increasingly irritated PRIVATE responses to you on your blog. You included my friends’ EMAIL ADDRESSES, along with their NAMES and mine too, AND CALLED THAT JOURNALISM. I politely asked you to TAKE THEM DOWN, but you claimed to “have ownership” of them and as such, “could do whatever you wished.” I still have your responses in my mailbox if you should like a reminder of what you wrote.

    Your website administrator, on INVESTIGATING MY CLAIM, found you had INFRINGED on MY PRIVACY and my INTELLECTUAL PROPERTY RIGHTS. Anyone who has a J-degree SHOULD KNOW that something authored by a person, belongs to that person, never the recipient, unless the author has EXPRESSLY allowed for its reproduction.

    As for SPACE, I welcome GENUINE COMMENTS about posts I have written, adding to or disputing any of the FACTS therein.

    Bombarding me with DUPLICATE comments (which I have to erase) UNRELATED to posts, is unnecessary and unwelcome.

    I find your reference to what I do – “housewifing” – condescending. Did your mother NOT raise you or were you brought up entirely by a maid?

    7) No further comment.

    8) I have Editor friends. They charge upwards of AUD2000 for 100k words, the average length of most novels. However, if your writing content or quality is HIGHLY objectionable, they may refuse your business. There is EASIER money to be made out there, even for editors. However great their skills, they cannot take a pile of poo and turn it into a black forest cake. I’m NOT calling your work poo, only that it is obvious you could do with bettering your grasp of grammar, syntax and semantics. Take for example the expression above of putting a ring on someone’s finger. It’s nothing grand in the scheme of literary phrases, but you really thought I asked you to find a guy to buy a ring to put on your finger?

    If you can write in Mandarin, or Korean or what have you, you should consider doing so, as MANY PEOPLE HAVE IDEAS (everyone is equally convinced their ideas are GOLD) but if you are unable to articulate them eloquently, then you are at a distinct disadvantage compared to those who can.

    As a member of the Queensland Writer’s Centre, I have rubbed shoulders with many published and unpublished authors. The ONE THING they all have is common is the ability to craft stories with words. I sometimes read some of their works and think, “Wow, if only I could do that.”

    Unlike you, I have a very REALISTIC VIEW of my abilities. I do not chase after goals I am patently unable to reach. I make no assumptions in any of my pieces and if I do make bold statements (ie. the majority of Koreans have plastic surgery) I QUALIFY THAT STATEMENT. That’s not something you have to do with novels; for that reason it is highly liberating to write one.

    As for marrying up, that’s another assumption of yours. I’ll teach you a new phrase today, somewhat tacky but I know it will stick. “ASSUME makes an ASS out of U and Me.” You know what I am saying don’t you? You assume too much. Assume = a thought with no basis, PRESUME = thought based on a calculated guess. Return to the FUNDAMENTALS of the English language instead of hurling BIG WORDS about.

    I’ll say this much. HRH is a self-made man. I HELPED MAKE THIS MAN. I am deserving of every comfort I enjoy from our marriage because I have contributed to it. RICH and POOR are relative. They know who they are and need no advertisement.

  10. You flatter me, Wendy. ( I am only being polite)

    1) Now who’s boasting? Have you been a wife or a mother to anyone? What stages of life can you possibly have gone through BEFORE me? ( I was once pregnant with Seah’s baby, my social circle are also a duplicate of yours.)

    2) Good. Agreed. Now I would appreciate all FUTURE comments of yours to be factual and mostly, impersonal. If you must critique something, do so the subject matter and not me PERSONALLY. (Since when i did criticise you personally other than you give an impression that you are willing to do anything to marry anyone who is just rich and i am justified by rumours too.)

    3) I didn’t ask if you wanted to talk because YOU ATTACKED ME simply for ACCIDENTALLY sending you an email intended for friends. ( Thank you for no apology huh)

    4) YOU MENTIONED in your first post here that you are lonely. Find YOUR COMMENTS under “The difference between being friends and being friendly.” ( I meant to tell you rich people do not need “friend”, you are perhaps the newly rich whom yet to realise)

    5) It’s my fault to think your English is better than what it really is. “To put a ring on someone’s finger” is an EUPHEMISM for MARRYING SOMEONE. When a man asks your father for your hand, gets down on bended knee to offer you a ring, he’s proposing marriage. I have many rings given to me that have no relation to marriage. ( I meant it the way you do. Even Seah put a ring for me. Ok, let me not “boosting” other records.)

    6) I did NOT CAUSE you to lose anything. I repeat: I did NOT CAUSE you to lose ANYTHING. You PUBLISHED my increasingly irritated PRIVATE responses to you on your blog. You included my friends’ EMAIL ADDRESSES, along with their NAMES and mine too, AND CALLED THAT JOURNALISM. I politely asked you to TAKE THEM DOWN, but you claimed to “have ownership” of them and as such, “could do whatever you wished.” I still have your responses in my mailbox if you should like a reminder of what you wrote. ( I was very pissed off privacy intruded by trying to get a clue on what was going on with my life, i just told you my way of life)

    Your website administrator, on INVESTIGATING MY CLAIM, found you had INFRINGED on MY PRIVACY and my INTELLECTUAL PROPERTY RIGHTS. Anyone who has a J-degree SHOULD KNOW that something authored by a person, belongs to that person, never the recipient, unless the author has EXPRESSLY allowed for its reproduction.

    As for SPACE, I welcome GENUINE COMMENTS about posts I have written, adding to or disputing any of the FACTS therein.

    Bombarding me with DUPLICATE comments (which I have to erase) UNRELATED to posts, is unnecessary and unwelcome. ( I was correcting my grammar, pardon me that i type as i think along. Blame it on my family upbringing that emphasize on speaking skill than writing, i went to J-School to salvage myself but in turn realise i could hire people to do that. What is there to be proud to have good grammar ha)

    I find your reference to what I do – “housewifing” – condescending. Did your mother NOT raise you or were you brought up entirely by a maid? (I am raised by my grandfather and auntie, and yes numerous maids)

    7) No further comment.

    8) I have Editor friends. They charge upwards of AUD2000 for 100k words, the average length of most novels. However, if your writing content or quality is HIGHLY objectionable, they may refuse your business. There is EASIER money to be made out there, even for editors. However great their skills, they cannot take a pile of poo and turn it into a black forest cake. I’m NOT calling your work poo, only that it is obvious you could do with bettering your grasp of grammar, syntax and semantics. Take for example the expression above of putting a ring on someone’s finger. It’s nothing grand in the scheme of literary phrases, but you really thought I asked you to find a guy to buy a ring to put on your finger? ( My understanding was our idea on marriage)

    If you can write in Mandarin, or Korean or what have you, you should consider doing so, as MANY PEOPLE HAVE IDEAS (everyone is equally convinced their ideas are GOLD) but if you are unable to articulate them eloquently, then you are at a distinct disadvantage compared to those who can. ( The truth is, i can do none of them because i also speak cantonese and hakka and very little Japanese; but who cares? I have the draft, the author centre can always help with prolonging the narration.)

    As a member of the Queensland Writer’s Centre, I have rubbed shoulders with many published and unpublished authors. The ONE THING they all have is common is the ability to craft stories with words. I sometimes read some of their works and think, “Wow, if only I could do that.” ( You are good, you remind me how i first started writing, the same theme, choice of word, grammar, syntax, etc)

    Unlike you, I have a very REALISTIC VIEW of my abilities. I do not chase after goals I am patently unable to reach. I make no assumptions in any of my pieces and if I do make bold statements (ie. the majority of Koreans have plastic surgery) I QUALIFY THAT STATEMENT. That’s not something you have to do with novels; for that reason it is highly liberating to write one. ( Are you saying i am making bold statement to write a novel? I am in the process publishing one worldwide)

    As for marrying up, that’s another assumption of yours. I’ll teach you a new phrase today, somewhat tacky but I know it will stick. “ASSUME makes an ASS out of U and Me.” You know what I am saying don’t you? You assume too much. Assume = a thought with no basis, PRESUME = thought based on a calculated guess. Return to the FUNDAMENTALS of the English language instead of hurling BIG WORDS about. (Who started the assumption by deducting i am jealous? Again, you have a big misunderstanding on my character)

    I’ll say this much. HRH is a self-made man. I HELPED MAKE THIS MAN. I am deserving of every comfort I enjoy from our marriage because I have contributed to it. RICH and POOR are relative. They know who they are and need no advertisement. (Again, i am born in a world of beauty; your husband is utterly not. SO what impressioin do oyu want me to derive?)

    Dear Estella,

    As i repeatedly emphasize, i am still befriending with you is on the account of SJ and Seah; they taught me to be sharing and i heard about you long before our KLCC encounter. Hence, i only here to give two cent worth as someone who has been to Jschool and worked for dowjones and Reuters, a path that is better than your dream. If you care for some insight, i feel it is my duty to share, that does not make us friends though. Likewise, if you feel your ability is good enough and i am of no use, i rather not in any quarel with you that waste my time in which i could have read more books and date more guys.

      • She lives in Malaysia too. Maybe you can take her out on a date. She keeps telling me how rich she is so you can be assured that she can afford to pay. 😛

        • Oh, he’s not asking for a second date, only the first one. Since you’ve been slamming me for dating men WHO CAN PAY, he thinks he stands a chance with you. After all, aren’t you so incredibly successful, wealthy, surrounded by beauty yadda yadda yadda…that you DON’T MIND dating down??? No, my mistake. If he went out with you, he’d be the one dating down.

    • Thanks. I KNEW I would win. After all, my fortune isn’t that I was born with some silver spoon, but that I WORK for everything I have.

      However, I have a couple of unanswered QUESTIONS.

      1) How can my social circle be a duplicate of yours WHEN I WENT TO UNI WITH ALL THESE PEOPLE, whereas you just dated one of us?

      2) You make me want to die laughing here. Rich people want to marry me, because I HAVE something money can’t buy, instead of the other way around.

      3) I don’t need your apology, although it would be nice.

      4) If rich people don’t need friends and you are rich, why do you keep writing to me?

      5) Seah proposed to you? And you MURDERED his baby?

      6) I was VERY PISSED OFF about having my emails and contacts PUBLISHED. Now that YOU SHOULD apologise UNRESERVEDLY for.

      Why PAY to attend J-school if you are going to get other people to be THE REAL JOURNALISTS?

      Were your relatives and maids not “house-wifing” in place of your mother? Wasn’t your mother “cheating” by YOUR STANDARDS since she had a career?

      8) Congratulations on your novel. I EXPECT it on BEST-SELLER lists soon. Would it by any chance happen to have material you’ve PLAGIARISED?

      One last thing: You keep saying YOU ARE RICH. Since you obviously don’t understand what is meant by “They know who they are and need NO advertisement”, let me ask you:

      Is your father Yeoh Tiong Lay or perhaps Robert Kuok? Is he listed under Malaysia’s 10 or 20 richest? Did you attend INTERNATIONAL SCHOOL in KL at a cost of RM15k then? I suspect it is double that now. Or did you attend any SIMILARLY EXPENSIVE school? Did you have EXPENSIVE EXTRA-CURRICULAR activities like PIANO, VIOLIN or BALLET? Did you go to DISNEYLAND as a child?

      Are you driving at least the latest series BMW now? Or maybe a LEXUS? If you are driving a MASERATI, LAMBORGHINI, FERARI or PORSHE I’d be utterly convinced you are rich. But are you?

      You can have 10 or 20 houses worth RM100k each and call yourself RICH. Many have millions of dollars AND SAY NOTHING. The REALLY RICH, don’t want anyone knowing about their wealth for fear of kidnapping and extortion. The PRETEND RICH want the world to know.

      So which are you? PRETEND RICH or REALLY RICH? If you are REALLY RICH and TELLING EVERYONE, then you must be stupid because kidnappers and extortionist are going to come after you. If you are PRETEND RICH and telling everyone then you must be even MORE STUPID because kidnappers and extortionist are going to come after you FOR NOTHING. Think about that.

  11. Ok. Lets get a couple of things straight:

    1) You mean you’re ONLY MIDDLE CLASS?

    But haven’t you been going ON and ON about being SURROUNDED BY BEAUTY, MONEY etc and ADVISING ME on what it is like to be RICH? I highly suggest you REREAD some of YOUR OWN posts before making yourself look any more ridiculous.

    2) Have you ever been a newscaster? Have you ever been anything MORE than a GOPHER in all of these highly-esteemed news agencies? If you HAVE NOT, then HOW can you advice me on achieving my so-call dream in broadcasting?

    Big yawn. BTW, that dream was one I achieved WITHOUT your so-call QUALIFICATIONS.

    3) If you can’t string together a grammatically correct sentence, how did you EARN your J-degree? What J school gives out degrees to people who can’t REALLY COMMUNICATE in the language in which they (as journalists) are supposed to have an above average grasp?

    4) Did I poke MY NOSE in your business or is it you, on MY SITE, poking YOUR NOSE in mine?

    You made ALL THESE CLAIMS about being RICH (really, you NEED to REREAD your posts), talented, charming, such a super-duper achiever WITHOUT MY ASKING. I was simply VERIFYING your claims. Questioning you (which is what REAL JOURNALISTS DO to get a story), I’ve found your story INCONSISTENT, CONSTANTLY CHANGING (you must think that is a sign of GREAT INTELLIGENCE), whilst displaying all the ASSUMPTIONS you make about me, which must help you to SLEEP well at night THINKING you are superior.

    **I’ll tell you a couple of things, since you keep ASSUMING I’m low class: I played the piano for 10 years (an EXPENSIVE pursuit), went to see Disneyland AS A CHILD (no, this is not the next generation thing, and not just in Singapore either) on an UNLIMITED VISA to the USA. Try getting one.

    Tell me again, WHO IS LOW CLASS? WHO is a gold digger? WHO? You probably wonder about all the things I DON’T tell you.

    Btw, SJ’s family owns several hotels in KL. Even she did TWINNING with me. If you HAVE SO MANY FRIENDS, why did you have ask her for somewhere to stay when you went down to KL? Why didn’t any of your friends HELP YOU after your break-up with Seah? Are any of your MANY properties hotels?

    • You’ve been warned NOT to make DISPARAGING comments about me. Since you continually disregard this warning, and continue to make ALL sorts of ASSUMPTIONS (even after being told what an ASSUMPTION is) I have NO CHOICE but to SUSPEND your posting privileges INDEFINITELY.

      For the record, I’ve heard many UNFAVOURABLE stories about you too. They are:
      1) You sent THUGS to harass and intimidate Seah and his family after the break-up.
      2) Seah FORCED you to ABORT the baby and he DUMPED you, instead of whatever great romance you are claiming.

      The PROOF of this is that close to 8 years on, YOU are still bringing up your relationship with him, whereas HE HAS MARRIED and fathered a child.

      I wasn’t going to mention this since you have STALKED me, SJ, KY and a WHOLE HOST of PERSONS unconnected and uninterested in yourself.

      If you think me marrying a wonderful man after university is OUTDATED, perhaps you should try marrying one when you are 50. Make that 100.
      Any man who still wants to marry you after reading all this, probably just wants your PRETEND RICHES, because that is what you really are: PRETEND RICH.

      So there can be no misunderstanding, since your level of comprehension is so LOW, I have summarised your FAULTS:

      1) You have DELUSIONS OF GRANDEUR (evidently NOT rich, but going around calling everyone low class)
      2) You tell bold-faced LIES (your stories are INCONSISTENT)
      3) You BRAG (about tiddly little achievements YOU’VE MADE YOURSELF when people with 1000 times more say nothing)
      4) You are UNGRATEFUL (to Seah’s mum, SJ’s mum, to SJ and myself, who have ALL been kind and caring towards you)
      5) You are SPITEFUL (You want revenge even when in the WRONG)
      6) You are a PLAGIARIST (that is the term for people who REPRODUCE others work WITHOUT their permission and there is NO EXCUSE for that)
      7) Perhaps worse of all, you THINK you are SO SMART, when 1 to 6 prove otherwise.

      That is why you have NO FRIENDS, NO PROSPECTS – romantic or otherwise – and are CONTINUOUSLY harassing me.

      I bid you a good life. Continue reading if you want to. Don’t feel compelled to since I won’t be reading, allowing or returning any of your comments. Goodbye.

    • Read the argument to establish the facts, Ken:

      1) She’s been harassing me AND MY FRIENDS for years.
      2) She’s PUBLISHED my personal responses to her claiming SHE OWNS THEM and this is JOURNALISM
      3) She INSINUATES things she does not know, ATTACKS me personally.
      4) I’ve ONLY MET her ONCE.

      If you think you can be any more patient such a lunatic, please put down your phone number so that she can correspond WITH YOU instead. Thanks.

      • ALL FRIENDS OF WENDY LOH:

        Kindly desist from harassing me. NONE of your messages in support of Wendy Loh will be published. I repeat: NONE. I do not care what you have to say about Wendy Loh or any of her comments. I have only ever met Wendy Loh ONCE, briefly, more than 10 years ago. She has NO REASON to contact me, much less harass me; and neither do ANY of you. This matter is closed. Further contact by ANY of you will result in EVERY comment of Wendy Loh’s being deleted.

        FYI Malaysia is signatory to an international law against cyber crime. This includes cyber-plagiarism, bullying and harassment via the internet. I can trace ALL your IP addresses. Consider yourself warned.

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  13. Hi Estella. Read ur blog for the first time, not that I have not thought about you from time to time, just let the time slip away. Nice to see the photo of you and Amanda! Email me if you wish. Cheers Valerie ex Zen 🙂

    • Hey Val,

      Great to hear from you! How’s Ken doing? Are you guys still in West End? We moved to Perth in January this year and will be here until January 2015. Perth is rather quiet compared to Brisbane, but we are getting used to it. Will certainly drop you a line in the coming week. I’ve very big news to share. Hope you and Ken are well. XX

  14. Hi Estella, I saw one of your post about TRA programme! I am interested to be in one, is there any chance that you know where can I get those products in Australia?

    • Sorry, I don’t know where you can get it but Nuskin should be able to put you in touch with a distributor in your area. I bought mine off my SIL to give her some “support” for her fledgling business. 🙂

  15. Dear Estella,
    I am hoping to receive funding to do research on Peranakan language -culture and WHATEVER???. Yes, I’m a “You all” from the US – NYC through taught at a college in the south, and speak other languages fluently. and have family living in SG (for the past 4 years) so I’ve spent quite a a lot of time in Singapore. While expanding my research for a paper I am planning to write, I came across your wonderful, and humorous blog. The article which I’m presently working on is an introduction to the culture with a perspective on the state of global influences and the case for revitalization of “dying” languages I’d like to use “Where is Estella?” as part of my title if that is okay with you, since I will probably use several of your quotes from your blog which I have to say is ultra charming and very to the point.
    especially as it deals with your insights into the Hakka ways.
    If you have any thoughts or insights or references to recommend, it would be so appreciated. I will be in SG for a month, leaving next week. I do not speak or write Chinese, Hokkien, Hakka, or Malay, but I have spent a great deal of time at the new Peranakan Museum, and if I’m funded, I will have privileges to do research at the library of Asian Cultures as well as teaching at one of the national universities. This will be challenging, as my proposal focus is on the metaphorical constructs that have influenced Peranakan culture and attitudes. If I do get my funding, I’ll be living in SG for several months next year. I will definitely keep you informed and hope to stay in touch. Thanks for your candid and clever writing. It is very refreshing,
    especially after laboring through so many scholarly texts.
    All best, Anna-Inez

    • Hello Anna,

      Thank you for reading my blog. I wish you all the best with your stay in SG, it’s a very interesting city-state.

      Unfortunately, I think Peranakan culture, in it’s truest form, may be beyond revival. SG has worked hard to preserve what remains, but much of what you see in the museum there is no longer practiced. Perhaps our customs are simply too elaborate for the time-poor and culturally ignorant. I hope you succeed in finding others with similar aspirations. Best of luck.

      Cheers.

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